just go...

so, this theme has popped up often recently "i can't ____________ because i don't care for __________" i have even been guilty of this myself.  i've not done something, gone somewhere i would've like to just because i didn't care for for someone else who would be attending.  why?  i really wanted to go.  odds are i would've attended with another friend.  so, why would i allow my differences to keep me from going somewhere. 

recently i've heard this from other adults and my own children.  and as i mentioned i too have been guilty of it.  sadly i'm finding as my circle of friends is growing so are the obstacles.  with new friends comes history...their history & mine which isn't necessary to be laid out in our first meeting...and sometimes the past just doesn't come up because it's the past.  and...sometimes it does come up.  sometimes our past and the differences/grudges we hold onto really get in the way of our present and future.  we allow them to become road blocks, obstacles, limiting our own potential for fun, friendships, and experiences. 

that's a lot of power given to such a negative in our lives.  so, i'm taking it all back.  regardless of the past, the conflict, the negative impression, if i want to go, do and i'm not so fond of the attendees....well, odds are the feeling is mutual so i guess, sorry for your luck, the potential uncomfortableness someone may feel.  but i'm gonna do, go where i want to.  i'm gonna enjoy my friends and those relationships.  i hope you do too!  enjoy, take control, let bygones go, and enjoy!