so a week ago i received a stern warning/threat from a someone via fb on his wife's account, regarding a comment i made, in light, on a status of a friend who doesn't live in our community.  my comment was vague and for those who know me would've known the following 1) it's nothing i wouldn't say to the 'powers that be' 2) i'm a jokester....9/10 times.  ANY way, as i thought about the incident all i could think about is why? why would he bother?  what was gonna be my punishment?  what was i to be "careful" of exactly....or what?  friday school? iss (eek)? my child kept from something s/he loves? seriously based on past experiences i'm left to wonder just how the foot shall come down.  in addition and more puzzling to me i was left wondering what the 'fear' of me was or was based on.  although outspoken and of my own mind i 1) hate conflict and avoid it and confrontations at all cost 2) can not recall even one time when in public* that i've been rude to another and/or confrontational to them.  (*by public i mean live in person....not fb or blog - as those are locations i opt to speak my mind, state my opinions and what not.  like a radio/tv, if you don't like what i say you don't have to tune in.  moreover - 99.9% of my fb status' are restricted to my fb friends only)

so, back to my original pondering....where's the scary?  is it that my opinions might be shared by others?  is it that my take is a truth, and perhaps an ugly one?  is it that i challenge that which doesn't make sense?  is it that i tend to call a spade a spade and am not blind to the elephant in the room? i get why some of those qualities might not be to your liking or comprise someone you want to hang around with, especially if you cannot persuade them to do your bidding or just go along with what ever and turn the other cheek when need be.  and if that's the case fine....we'll skip coffee & fellowship. but seriously is it necessary to threaten/warn?

for the most part i'd describe myself as pretty laid back, easy going, accepting and tolerant....even of persons who i'd consider to be boobs at best.  my opinion of some doesn't comprise my opinion of the whole - that would be dumb.

so yeah....i'm not good at pretending, but i'd say i'm generally kind.  but some people just seem to be mean and malicious.  whew, that's gotta be exhausting.  we're all a work in progress....it'll be interesting to see in what manner we continue to do so.