& the purpose of that tale was?

is it worth it? you know telling your mom you'll be one place all the while knowing the plan is to go elsewhere? planning an evening with friends and then deciding you don't want one of them around. these are some of my daughters observations. obviously since i'm privy to the info she's shared with me some concerns. furthermore she was disappointed and bothered enough by the events she felt she needed to talk about them with me.

as a parent it frustrates me that the kids are making choices that are deceitful. nothing new i'm sure but saddening nonetheless as these are kids who are 'friends' of my child's. it's another example of a 'lesson' to my own children through the action of others that i'd rather not have to give.

i'm almost certain those involved haven't given consideration to how others my perceive their actions. i'm sure they would assume adults would be disappointed yet probably think their peers would think they were "cool". i am disappointed as i stated earlier. my daughter however is too. disappointed that friends find it easy and apparently fun to be deceitful. and annoying that others find it cool.

kat isn't a goody two-shoes, but she has self-respect. PTL!!!! it boils down to this...yes they are teens, but they know better. they are choosing to lie. lies to their parents, peers and self. and sadly so many of their peers just turn the other cheek. in addition kat isn't the type of friend to sit back and allow another friend to be talked about. she is a good friend.

we have had many conversations regarding friends and choices. and sadly few girls have demonstrated character that has given way to her allowing them in. she did that once...only to realize she had ultimately been used. it was a tough lesson but one that taught her how to be the kind of friend she would want to have.

girls, (&boys) your lies don't make you "cool". and if those you surround yourself with lead you to believe they do you have a sad group of "friends".

doubt many if any teen girls will read this, but just had to put it out there.